What is your why for today? Do your emotions ever take over and trump your why? I know it does with me on some days. However, not today, my why for today is to get this article written so you, dear readers, are able to gain something new. My why may vary, from day to day and I don’t always have the same amount of effort because honestly, life happens. The car may break down, there are deadlines in my career that need to be met, my sleep quality may vary, and kids. Oh yes, kids, I have that also to attend to besides my busy career. Before I know it, the day is almost through and I’d be more than lucky to even get to my why let alone complete my other gazillion daily tasks and several self-cares. However, that doesn’t make me a failure and if you are experiencing something similar, nor does it make you one either!

I could so easily judge myself for failing to complete a laundry list of things, but I remember that I don’t have to be perfect in order to be happy. In fact, I have to remind myself, I can only do my best! If you are going through treatment right now or even post treatment I can’t even imagine what you have on your plate or how you are feeling as you wake up each day. I have been through maybe a similar struggle being a 12 year breast cancer survivor. If I could give you a hug right now, I most definitely would! Life is tough with all the demands in a pandemic world while keeping up with daily responsibilities, personal goals, and CANCER!

My life was impacted as an 8 yo girl shared her some words of wisdom with me recently. Please keep in mind, I’m currently in the professions as a Licensed Professional Counselor (Better Help & Kettle Moraine Counseling ) a Life Coach ( and Author of the book, Dear God, Please Make My Mommy Feel Better (on Amazon), and of course, recently a Blogger– yet, despite all of that I was humbled when she spoke.

Without further ado, her insightful words were, “Even though I am scared, I know I am brave and I can make it through.” You may benefit from reading this affirmation again. We all can relate to being scared in our lives. When you get up you may not know how the day will go. You may be emotionally crippled by fear, sadness, frustration, or anger before you start the day. Remember to hold your head up high and keep moving forward toward your WHY regardless of what you are facing at the moment because you dear one, are simply BRAVE and you CAN get through this.

–Rebekah Wolff, LPC

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Hi I'm Rebekah Wolff. I'm the new blogger for Chix 4 a Cause! An organization that is near and dear to my heart. First off, I'm a busy mom, a 12 year cancer survivor, a Licensed Professional Counselor, an Author, Speaker, and a Life Coach ( in the West Bend Area. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling which led me to help others in my career for not only mental health, but also cancer support. I am also an author of a cancer support book for children and families, "Dear God, Please Make My Mommy Feel Better" that is currently available on Amazon.

In addition to my careers, I advocate self-care in terms of body, mind and spirit. I want to share ideas to help others create balance and to practice mental skills especially, in a critical time of coping with cancer. I was a former Gift of Love Recipient 12 years ago when I went through Stage 3Breast Cancer at 27 yo. This blog means so much to be able to give you that extra inspiration to take care of yourselves and others impacted by cancer.

Want to get in touch? Email me at or find me at:

Inspirational Angelwings Care and Coaching by Rebekah group on Facebook

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When people experience major life changes, they often want to talk with someone who’s gone through something similar. Connecting with someone else who can relate and provide guidance can provide tremendous feelings of support and comfort. Knowing that the person isn’t going through a life-altering experience alone can help them come through the experience with much better outcomes than if they remained solo along their journey. This is why it’s so important for people who survived cancer to think about becoming mentors those battling the disease.

If you are a cancer survivor, here are some reasons to consider becoming a mentor for someone who has the same type of cancer you did. One-on-one support is vital during an overwhelming diagnosis with cancer. Whereas medical professionals can take care of a person’s physical needs, you can help with their psychological and emotional needs. Providing empathy from firsthand experience lets you assist someone else facing tough questions and unknowns just as you had to. As a mentor, you can provide this person with

information, compassion, and hope.

Talking with someone who’s “been there” can provide a world of good. Although medical professionals can provide facts and scientifically based opinions on cancer-related issues, many cannot relate to what their patients are experiencing. Although everyone’s journey with cancer is different, there may be similarities between your experience and what someone else with a similar type of cancer is experiencing. Perhaps you experienced a rare, lesser known side effect of treatment and happen to come across someone else who’s experiencing a similar side effect. As a mentor, you can provide help and hope that this person otherwise might not have.

Becoming a mentor to someone with cancer doesn’t require much training. You simply need a strong desire to help others, be positive, foster open communication, and remain honest. Relay small bits of information at a time so the person can absorb what’s being said without being overwhelmed. Prepare to repeat the information often, and patiently answer lots of questions. Be sure to establish boundaries up front. Include your availability, how often you expect to meet, for what length of time, what your role will include and exclude, and the best way to contact you.

As a survivor, think about becoming a mentor for someone fighting cancer. You have the credibility of knowing what battling cancer is like and can sincerely empathize about the journey. Plus, you can use what you learned from your own experiences to advocate for someone else to have a potentially better outcome than they otherwise might not.

As part of your mentoring process, consider talking about Chix 4 a Cause with the person who has cancer. Learn more about our Gifts of Love program at today.

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