“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” I was immediately impacted by the deep meaning of a Chinese Proverb as it stared back at me off my social media newsfeed. As busy as I was that day, I took the time to fully take in the words. Powerful. Thank goodness we don’t have to be pigeonholed by our circumstances or labels society may pin on us! However, when was the last time you felt vulnerable or relaxed in who you are? How many times have we labeled ourselves by who we think we are or what others think of us? Are we a good mom/dad? Am I competent in my job? Am I a good daughter/son? Did I do enough to help others? Did I clean the house well enough? The list can go on! I’m sure you’ve also heard you are not your circumstance. You are not your cancer, you are not your divorce, you are not your bankruptcy, etc. It’s so easy to get caught up in an endless loop of feeling not perfect, not good enough. It’s so easy to do, just turn on the news or watch some advertisements! There are constant reminders telling us our teeth aren’t white enough, our hair isn’t long enough, and we really have to do something about covering up those age spots!

Louise Hay stated perfectly that when one has a disease, it simply means they aren’t at EASE in their body, mind, or soul. Where are you not at EASE? Who are you pretending to be? What are you not living up to? What is society telling you who you have to be? What are you judging yourself for? Are you holding in intense emotions such as guilt, pain, shame, or heartbreak? If so, you are not alone, but you do also have the choice in releasing it just the same. As our country gears up to celebrate the 4th of July, make sure to also celebrate who you truly are. Our country isn’t perfect, but it’s worth celebrating the annual birthday. Same as you, remember to FREE yourself to be who you are meant to be. You deserve the same amount of compassion, pride, and love that we hold for our country. After all, you aren’t perfect either, but you most definitely are worth it.

Rebekah Wolff

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What is your why for today? Do your emotions ever take over and trump your why? I know it does with me on some days. However, not today, my why for today is to get this article written so you, dear readers, are able to gain something new. My why may vary, from day to day and I don’t always have the same amount of effort because honestly, life happens. The car may break down, there are deadlines in my career that need to be met, my sleep quality may vary, and kids. Oh yes, kids, I have that also to attend to besides my busy career. Before I know it, the day is almost through and I’d be more than lucky to even get to my why let alone complete my other gazillion daily tasks and several self-cares. However, that doesn’t make me a failure and if you are experiencing something similar, nor does it make you one either!

I could so easily judge myself for failing to complete a laundry list of things, but I remember that I don’t have to be perfect in order to be happy. In fact, I have to remind myself, I can only do my best! If you are going through treatment right now or even post treatment I can’t even imagine what you have on your plate or how you are feeling as you wake up each day. I have been through maybe a similar struggle being a 12 year breast cancer survivor. If I could give you a hug right now, I most definitely would! Life is tough with all the demands in a pandemic world while keeping up with daily responsibilities, personal goals, and CANCER!

My life was impacted as an 8 yo girl shared her some words of wisdom with me recently. Please keep in mind, I’m currently in the professions as a Licensed Professional Counselor (Better Help & Kettle Moraine Counseling ) a Life Coach ( and Author of the book, Dear God, Please Make My Mommy Feel Better (on Amazon), and of course, recently a Blogger– yet, despite all of that I was humbled when she spoke.

Without further ado, her insightful words were, “Even though I am scared, I know I am brave and I can make it through.” You may benefit from reading this affirmation again. We all can relate to being scared in our lives. When you get up you may not know how the day will go. You may be emotionally crippled by fear, sadness, frustration, or anger before you start the day. Remember to hold your head up high and keep moving forward toward your WHY regardless of what you are facing at the moment because you dear one, are simply BRAVE and you CAN get through this.

–Rebekah Wolff, LPC

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Hi I'm Rebekah Wolff. I'm the new blogger for Chix 4 a Cause! An organization that is near and dear to my heart. First off, I'm a busy mom, a 12 year cancer survivor, a Licensed Professional Counselor, an Author, Speaker, and a Life Coach ( in the West Bend Area. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling which led me to help others in my career for not only mental health, but also cancer support. I am also an author of a cancer support book for children and families, "Dear God, Please Make My Mommy Feel Better" that is currently available on Amazon.

In addition to my careers, I advocate self-care in terms of body, mind and spirit. I want to share ideas to help others create balance and to practice mental skills especially, in a critical time of coping with cancer. I was a former Gift of Love Recipient 12 years ago when I went through Stage 3Breast Cancer at 27 yo. This blog means so much to be able to give you that extra inspiration to take care of yourselves and others impacted by cancer.

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Inspirational Angelwings Care and Coaching by Rebekah group on Facebook

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